How many of us make choices based upon an outcome? What job pays more, where will this choice take me, what new opportunities will come by taking this choice, or even what will I gain from making a choice? I am not saying that some of these questions are not important, or should not be considered. I just want you to think about this for a moment. How many choices have you made based on the outcome? If you are anything like me, several have. Recently, I have had a shift in my decision making. It made me stop and think about how I make decisions in my life.
I have recently stepped into a relationship that has tested many of my boundaries and beliefs. One of those being how I make choices for myself in my life. When pondering my feelings for this person, I many times wondered where this would take me in the future. How would the relationship be in 2 years? Would it last? Would I really be happy? Is this someone I feel like I’m not wasting time on if it does end in a few years?
Now, I know you are thinking that these questions are valid and should be considered. Especially if I do not want to “waste my time.” Now let me share with you what I learned. I learned to live in the moment. I learned to love without needing an outcome. I learned to listen to what I was feeling when I was around this person. I learned to stop judging, or trying to figure out how the future would play out. For a moment, I decided to love him without knowing anything except how I felt in that moment. How, do you ask, was I able to do that? I was so worried about where it was going and what could or couldn’t happen, that I was missing out on the moments that were happening right now. I wasn’t enjoying the winks he gave whenever I looked at him. I wasn’t enjoying just cuddling or deep conversations, or how that moment felt just being there with him. I realized that I was literally missing out.
I share this experience with you, in hopes that you will change how you make decisions. That instead of focusing on the outcome, rewards, or possibilities, make the choice by following how you feel in that moment. Follow your heart. Follow what that energy is telling you in the moment that you are in. In doing this, you will guarantee that your future is what you want it to be. You won’t have to constantly worry about what’s ahead. You will know. Making choices that feel good, following your heart, or feeling higher energy in your choice will give the universe the chance to give you more of those opportunities. The opportunities and experiences that come out of making those choices are usually more magnificent, joyful, and more fulfilling than making them based off logic, money, or what others want you to do. Always follow your instincts, for energy doesn’t lie. And besides, you don’t want to be on your death bed wishing you would have just followed your heart, or at least given it a chance.
For those of you wondering how my relationship is going, I take it one day at a time. And if you are wondering if it will have a “happily ever after” ending, well that is something we will both find out as time goes on. For now, I am going to trust in what I feel. I am going to love him, no strings, no worries of outcomes, and just give what I have to give. I am going to enjoy my moments with him and with others in my life. I am going to be here in present and really enjoy what has manifested. For if I do that, won’t I just bring in and manifest more to enjoy?